It’s a totally normal problem to have.
One thing I picked up along the way is to allow some air to escape around the harp on blow notes, where there are way more draw notes in a song. Just loosen your lip grip and let some extra air out when you exhale. Kinda evens things up.
Secondly, practice lightly. If you can get good intonation and tone at a quiet volume you will get better control when you do go all in!
Finally, much like udo said, if you are feeling tingly you are hyperventilating. That doesn’t always mean you are breathing too quickly just that you are breathing too much! Slow things down and give yourself some space and time. After a while you will be able to play seemingly loud and hard but without putting In much actual effort.